Spirituality – By not addressing Spirituality we are being unethical.
Religion has certain parameters/beliefs and how to get to those goals. Spirituality is already happening and every moment is a teachable moment. Spirituality is a goal of religion. Religion is for those who fear hell. Spirituality is for those who have already been there.
The ultimate spiritual experience is a connection with who you are. The first connection that needs to be made is the connection with self. Learn to get in touch with silence coupled with a wanting to become at peace.
Native American “We are not controlling nature – We are part of nature.” You don’t have a life – You are life.
Traumatic events happen and individuals in an attempt to heal self medicate with intoxicants. Trauma causes us to question our beliefs and values – it can also be an opportunity to explore our beliefs and values. Some young people do not know what the meaning of their own life is. Codependency is externally focused. By addressing spirituality we can help individuals identify with who they are.
Serenity Prayer- God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Serenity Prayer for individuals who struggle with religion – It is my intention to have serenity. It is my intention to accept the things I cannot change. It is my intention to change the things I can. It is my intention to have the wisdom to know the difference.
Praying is talking to God. Meditating is listening to God. Being out in creation gets me closer to my creator. He/She filled the hole in my soul.
To bring spirituality into the room we need to be a student and the teacher. We have to respect the rights and beliefs of others. We don’t stigmatize people for their beliefs. They may have found something in their life that helps them stay sober. Not necessarily God. If we cannot treat someone who worships the dark side then we need to refer them out to someone who can. We need to know our limits and be ready to refer them out. Do not put our beliefs on our clients. Avoiding talking about their beliefs can be interpreted as judgmental. Ask “Do you have any religious affiliations?” “Do you have any spiritual affiliations?” People will approach the approachable. People with high spirituality can handle life better. If we want to be more spiritual with clients then we have to be more spiritual. We need to be “attuned” to our client or patient. They can feel if we have empathy. Explore what they know – Explore what they want to know. When an individual cries – do not hand them a box of tissues – put the tissues where they can reach for it. Step out of mine and be into theirs – be fully present. Be more mindful and have Acceptance, Faith, Honesty, Courage, Humility, Justice, and Perseverance will bring forth Liberation. Our culture is about competition – compassion is in contrast with competition. Be willing to suffer with. Fellowship helps people stay sober when they connect with old friends, experience boredom, stress and/or struggle in financial areas.
Heart math – Our heart has a brain of its own. Spirit in Latin is defined as the breath. Exercise – think of a problem – breathe through your heart – imagine a safe place – go back to the problem – experience a solution or thinking about it from a different space. If the ego is over developed it blocks an individual from fully belonging.
We need to be aware of the faith based organizations. We have to communicate where the resources are. Know that not everything can be done for free. Some churches are resourceful however not every church is friendly and open to recovery. Some churches mean well however are not properly trained. Every clergy is not a chaplain and every chaplain is not a pastor. Celebrate Recovery is non-denominational. Alcoholics Victorious and Portland Rescue Mission are open to Recovery.
Know that we are good counselors – Now we are better counselors.