Becoming…

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It all began in the bathroom!  I became a runner in the bathroom!!!

I try to run every day – at least 1 mile and on good days 3+ miles!

It started out small.  I watched a Ted Talk where a gentleman encouraged viewers to add one itty bitty change to something you already do.  Go pee – Do one push-up! He got up to 80+ push-ups a day!  It Was Simple and Effective.  It worked for me too when I was at home a lot  – and not so much in public bathrooms.

But it started something within me because the running followed!

Someone – To this day I do not know who –  ordered two magazines for me- A Woman’s magazine that featured Barbara Streisand on the cover.  And the other magazine was a Runner’s magazine!

I put the Runner’s Magazine in the bathroom!

I know this is TMI however it’s worth sharing because it changed my life and perhaps it can change yours too!

I’m always in a rush but when I sat… and began reading I was moved by the stories – a group of runners who ran in the streets of Chicago, A woman in Africa who ran 8 miles a day to get to work to save money, tips on warming up before a run by spelling the alphabet with your feet, the best rated running gear…you name it – if it has to do with running this Runner’s magazine has it!

I have bad knees and it saddened me when my knees began to hurt.  I didn’t give up.  I ran until they hurt, then walked until they stopped then ran again!  Sometimes I walked more than ran but each day I read more I ran more!!! I am so blessed to be able to run three miles without stopping!

The pencil drawing came about after I attended a training through the Cedar Hills Hospital Professional Events – The topic was art therapy – it moved me too!  I will share more but for now I am hoping this little bit of life experience will move you too!

I encourage you to add one itty bitty thing to something you already do!  To find a favorite read to inspire and yes put it in the bathroom!!!  And dare to draw about it or sing about it – but do it – while you can – because you can!!!

I still wonder who did it – who ordered these two magazines for me – I would love to know because it seems to have changed my life –  I would love to say thank you to you!  If it was you who is reading this now – My heart thanks you!!!

Sincerely,

Guadalupe

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Dr. Gabor Mate!

Dr. Gabor Mate and Me

Okay please read with caution – This is my truth – Right now I feel vulnerable as all heck. However I am so eternally grateful for the insight Dr. Mate brings to the world and I found no better way to share it with you than to make it personal.  In applying what I learned from him through the many hours of viewing him on You Tube, reading In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts and attending the NWIAS conference / meeting him in person!!!  I am discovering myself.

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Okay – I no longer want to be the baby on the floor board of my father’s red Ford pick-up truck. The one that get’s left behind at 5 am as my family goes to work the fields. The baby who cries out as the temperature drops from a warm comforting heat to freezing cold by the time I am found at noon.  Blue lips, eyes swollen shut and soiled from head to foot.  I don’t want to be that baby anymore and I finally get that I am that baby.

Abandoned, cold, feeling unwanted, oh that’s not a feeling – that’s a perception. Feeling unloved – no that’s not a feeling either that’s a perception or interpretation or a message I made about my worthiness or the lack of it.

Dr. Mate would say what’s the truth?  The truth is my parents had to work – my mother had to do what my father told her because women listened to their men.  Her – or them leaving me had absolutely nothing to do with me or how they felt about me.  Even though their behavior demonstrates lack of love only they knew their intent.

I was scared, frightened, feelings of terror that no one would come for me.  The truth is I had a right to feel all of the painful feelings I felt. I can cry now for my experience. And  I can show love to the little baby that never got it.  I can hug her goodnight and write songs about how valuable she is.

“I am the oxygen that I need to breath.”  When I first wrote the song it started by saying – You are the oxygen that I need to breath. I rewrote the lyrics after meeting Dr. Mate!!!

Hearing Dr. Mate say to all of us at the conference in his soft soothing and assuring voice “Awe I get it – you hurt right now”  reminded me of my dear friend Lafa who also talks soothingly to little Diego as he cries out loud as if in tremendous pain – her saying – “What’s the matter little mister” with such love in her voice. My heart leaps for joy that little Diego will grow strong and sure of himself!!!

I can talk to my little baby inside me like that.  Reassure my baby – Awe I get it…my heart hurts, I’m lonely, I need connection – in the past the connection came at all cost.  Today the connection I seek is with me.

Reliving this experience is a tremendously lonely and painful time – but I do get it.  For so long I didn’t want to be that baby left behind on the floorboard and I am that baby left behind on the floorboard.

That is what Dr. Mate was trying to say.  It is that awareness coupled with learning the real truth from that experience.  Not from an adult perspective that also dismisses the baby infant experience but from a compassionate space where I can give the baby the love it yearns for so hungrily.  I finally get that baby can now get its needs met best by me.

Dr. Mate demonstrated another perspective of the truth when he asked the audience to add other perspectives of the scenarios shared. It was enlightening!

Another truth for me is that my parents had to work – that was their priority – AND I am still valuable, lovable, even whole.  I am complete.  When I crave that man love or feel the tremendous grief and loss from lost love – I commit to reminding myself that I am whole – I always have been – I always was – it was my interpretation of the experience that made me feel less than or broken – which again are not even feelings.  Scared, hurt, frightened.  Oh my goodness. This is big.

This is big because I get it now that every time I yearned for a man it was the baby on the floor board reliving the pain and suffering from the interpretations I made in my head.  It f….. hurts right now but it is as if for once this hurt is an intentional walk through Pain Avenue to get to Destination Wholeness – Coming Home!

My grace filled life after addiction -I get to hang out with me – the wholeness me – which is who I really am!  Thank you Dr. Mate and everyone who played a part in bringing him to Portland!!!

Guadalupe Aragón

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July 2017 is turning out to be a Fire Cracker Month with ample opportunities to network and learn!!!

Listening across Culture, Social Position and Power

Friday, June 30, 2017 from 8:00 AM to 12:00 PM PDT at The DoubleTree Hotel
This workshop highlights that the therapeutic alliance occurs within social, historical, political, economic and cultural contexts. Counseling professionals will take a closer look into how discussions about difference can be heard from particular social positions.
Presented by
Michelle Maher PhD
Michelle Maher, Ph.D.


Legal Cannabis: Facts & Clinical Skills
Friday, July 14th, 2017 9 a.m to 4:30 p.m.
6 CEUs
Sponsored By
Chemical Dependency Training Consortium of the NW
The Water Resources Education Center
4600 S.E. Columbia Way, Vancouver, WA
Questions about directions to the Water Center, please call us at 360-487-7111

Goal of Training
The legalization of medical and retail cannabis creates unique challenges for those working with individuals in the mental health, addictions, and corrections fields. This training will review the effects of cannabis on the mental and physical health of adolescents and adults, including discussion about recent research and reporting. To engage clients in productive discussions about their cannabis use, the evidence-based strategy of Motivational Interviewing will be shared and practiced.

Behavioral Objectives
Participants of the training, will:

  • Gain understanding of the varied forms of cannabis,
  • Understand current research findings on the effects of cannabis on mental and physical health,
  • Learn about cannabinoids and their interest to medical science,
  • Practice evidence-based clinical skills to talk with clients about cannabis, and
  • Increase knowledge of educational resources for cannabinoid research.

Agenda

Trainer
Janis Crawford, PhD, LPC, ACS

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Saturday, July 15, 2017

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Breaking Free with Accelerated Resolution Therapy: The New Paradigm for Trauma-informed Treatment

Friday, July 14, 2017 from 8:00 AM to 12:00 PM PDT
This workshop for counseling and healthcare professionals will change your expectations of how you help your clients transform trauma. It will introduce Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), an emerging brief therapy that delivers outcomes typically seen in longer-term treatment.
Presented by Dave Ebaugh, LCSW
The DoubleTree Hotel
Dave Ebaugh, LCSW

Wednesday-Friday, July 19-21, 2017
Wednesday and Thursday, 8 a.m.-4:30 p.m., Friday 8 a.m.-12:30 p.m.

43rd Annual Northwest Institute of Addictions Studies Conference Overview

Everyday Attachment in Recovery: Creating Healthy, Connected Communities

New Location!: Red Lion Hotel on the River, 909 N. Hayden Island Drive, Portland, OR 97217.
Click here for information on discounted room rates and accommodations

2017 Keynote Speakers:

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Wednesday:  Gabor Mate, MD, Addiction and Wellness Expert, Author and Professional Speaker
Thursday:  J. Stuart Ablon, PhD, Director, Think:Kids in the Department of Psychiatry
at Massachusetts General Hospital, and Associate Clinical Professor of Psychology
in the Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School

Friday:  Joy DeGruy, PhD, MSW, Author, Lecturer and Consultant in the area of social justice,
Assistant Professor of Research, Portland State University

CEUs

The CEUs earned at this conference are acknowledged and accepted by ACCBO.

Full Conference – 18 CEUs
Single Day (Wednesday or Thursday) – 6 CEUs
Single Day (Friday) – 4 CEUs

This conference is co-sponsored by the Professional Mental Health Counseling — Specialization in Addictions Program and the Center for Community Engagement at the Lewis & Clark Graduate School of Education and Counseling.

About NWIAS

Our mission is to encourage high standards of competence in the treatment of alcohol and other drug dependencies by sponsoring educational programs to improve the skills and knowledge of practitioners in the field. Learn more at www.nwias.com or find NWIAS on Facebook.

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Friday, May 12th, 2017 9 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. 6 CEU Hours

The Opioid Epidemic

Sponsored By
Crestview Recovery
PeaceHealth Southwest Medical Center
Health Education Center off Mill Plain and 92nd Ave
600 NE 92nd Ave., Vancouver, WA 98664

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Trainer

Marcus De Carvalho, M.D., Dr. Marcus De Carvalho is a Medical Doctor who specializes in addiction medicine and psychiatry. He is board certified and is a diplomat of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, Inc. Dr. De Carvalho is the president and founder of The Center for a Healthy Mind and Wellbeing and is the Medical Director for Beaches Recovery, a residential rehabilitation facility that specializes in addiction medicine, partial hospitalization and intensive outpatient addiction treatment. Dr. De Carvalho is also credentialed at local hospitals where he treats patients who are in need of medical detox from addictive substances or are in need of psychiatric stabilization. http://www.healthymindmd.com

Goal of Training
Recently the CDC has classified the opioid crisis in the United States, “An Epidemic”. Dr. De Carvalho will outline the opioid epidemic and the catastrophic implications it has had on the United States from a morbidity, mortality and financial perspective. He will also walk you through the pleasure reward pathway (PRP) and how this system, once introduced to opioids, has been “hijacked” and left to believe it needs opioids to survive much like food and sleep making it difficult for patients to maintain sobriety. Dr. De Carvalho will also detail different modalities of treatment including medication assisted treatments and behavioral therapies, specifically acceptance and commitment therapy which is mindfulness based, cognitive behavioral therapy and motivational interviewing. Dr. De Carvalho believes that addiction is not a “moral failure” but in fact a medical illness with genetic, developmental and social ramifications and will speak on this topic as well. Dr. De Carvalho is very passionate about addiction and has committed his practice to helping individuals with addiction issues regain their lives once again.

For Information Contact:
Chemical Dependency Training Consortium of the

Lisa Westlund
cdtc@addictionceu.org
Phone: 503-805-0989
Fax: 1-360-557-5032 (vFax)

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Mindful Smoking in the Community!

04.22.2017

Day One of Mindful Smoking out in the community!

Today I will meet with four individuals in their home.  I went to bed early 8 pm.  I woke up early 4:30 am.  I made a nice breakfast of shredded wheat, slivered almonds, ½ a banana and organic milk.  I also had a cup of coffee with one of my remaining guilty pleasures 1 teaspoon of heavy whipping cream.  (No Sugar)

If I am going to do this – helping others reconnect with their tobacco/nicotine use – in the form of life coaching – I am going to do my best to live the life I wish for others.

My daughter Sherry said “Mom, You had an idea – Mindful Smoking.  You put the process together and now you’re teaching it at PCC.”  This will be another part of that!

So now a lovely person and one of my dear friends and colleagues have made it possible for me to begin this work in the community!  It appears the universe is coming together nicely!  And well – I am showing up!!!

Today I will be meeting with four beautiful young adults in their home.  They all use tobacco/nicotine of some form and they have all agreed to be an integral part of this adventure we call life!

And now I will be sharing this adventure with you.  I will be adding a tab titled In The Community where I will post the evolution of Mindful Smoking as it evolves and jells!

I welcome questions, comments and feedback – So let’s do this.

My Grace-Filled Life Truly Is!

Guadalupe

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Treating the Personality in the Addictive Personality: A Neuroplastic Approach

Friday, April 14, 2017 8:00 am to 12:00 pm @ the Double Tree Hotel – Lloyd Center

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Presented by: Anthony J. Mele, Psy.D

 The co-occurrence of borderline personality disorder and substance abuse disorders are well-documented and pose specific treatment challenges. While borderline personality disorder is often conceptualized as the behavioral manifestation of early life events amenable to intensive psychotherapy rather than biological approaches, more recent research suggests that BPD is a disabling brain disease as well as a personality disorder. Neglecting the neurobiological underpinnings of BPD may render psychotherapeutic intervention only partially successful, thereby reinforcing the cycle of affective instability that often characterizes BPD. This presentation suggests that some individuals with BPD who also have specific deficits in certain brain structure and function might benefit from a neuroplastic approach to BPD and substance abuse treatment.

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Squeal!!!

Dr. Gabor Maté is a medical doctor recently retired from active practice. He was a family physician for two decades and for seven years he served as Medical Coordinator of the Palliative Care Unit at Vancouver Hospital. For twelve years he worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard core addiction, mental illness, HIV and related conditions. For two years he was the onsite physician at Vancouver’s unique Supervised Injection Site, North America’s only such facility. He is internationally known for his work on the mind/body unity in health and illness on attention deficit disorder and other childhood developmental issues, and his breakthrough analysis of addiction as a psychophysiological response to childhood trauma and emotional loss. He is the author of four best-selling books published in twenty languages on five continents, including When The Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection and the award winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters With Addiction. Gabor is the recipient of an Outstanding Alumnus Award from Simon Fraser University and an Honorary Degree of Law from the University of Northern British Columbia, among other awards. He frequently addresses professional and lay audiences in North America and internationally on issues related to childhood development and parenting, physical and mental health and wellness, and addiction. He is Adjunct Professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University. His next book, Toxic Culture: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a World of Materialism will be published in 2016.63786_gabormate-colour-low-3

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Dr. Gabor Mate Is Coming!!!

Dr. Mate Is Coming!!!

I feel like the Beatles of Mental Health and Substance Use are coming!!!

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This website is currently under construction!  If all goes well we will be connecting again soon!!!

My Grace Filled Life After Addiction!!!

Guadalupe

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David Whyte Is So Far Out!!! I could not resist sharing him with you!!!

In a Grace-Filled Life after Addiction We Are Truly Never Alone!!!

Siempre,

Guadalupe!

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Guadalupe Aragon
Grace On You

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